We had been in MBA together. The genesis of the friendship started with a few forced ganging ups like-
- The Leo birthday Treat for the class
- Fashion Show participation in JIPMER fest where MBA's are separate invitees and participate separately from the University
- Dbase classes where Hubby was the mentor for our group and we had to do a team project.
We girls used to do everything in a group atleast for the 1st year- you know how it is when you are few in number in a class. Luckily, all 8 girls liked to talk to him and therefore we soon formed a gang comprising most of the girls and some of the guys of the class.
Through the 2nd year, there came a series of functions and industry interfaces where we worked together, being a part of the management cell. While we liked to talk to each other we were not officially going around. In our senior batch(es), most of the students were together with somebody or the other may be out of sheer peer pressure! For exactly the same reason we were not together. Every interaction was in a group because of this strange inter class bonding that existed in our batch.
Neither of us took the first step perhaps because we felt it was too early to commit and wanted to check whether it would be a case of "out of sight, out of mind/ heart".
Once out of college, secure in our jobs, we realized we still wanted to see each other, and it was possible due to proximity.
Officially, he maintains that I proposed and I maintain that he proposed. And there is no way anyone can verify. While I have the advantage of having a blog where I can speak out the truth, I choose not to make use of it and let the same version remain on the post.
We took our time to get actually married, due to a myriad of reasons. But once the families were confortable with the idea and we comfortable with the position our career was we actually got engaged 2 days before the wedding.
I still bemoan the fact that I did not have a long enough courtship period. Quite an understatement since we married 4 years after being out of college.
But the courtship period after publicly wearing the ring has a different flavour to it.
No more looking behind your shoulders, no more making excuses for absence, no more being caught by colleagues/ friends at movies/ restaurants/ beaches.
Infact my CEO's son used to regularly report to my CEO on my weekend beach visits. Most Mondays my CEO used to greet me with words- Saturday, beach, boyfriend, my son saw.
No more people asking annoyingly when the marriage is.
No more advices on get married soon
No more suggestions of eligible bachelors in our community
Infact the habit of scanning the surroundings so that we could avoid some troublesome known faces became so ingrained that I found myself doing that even after marriage for a while.
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