Friday, January 28, 2011
Ojas being the fashionista he is, he would approach each day with the singular thought- shall I wear jeans right now?
Slowly, I have begun to notice that no matter what he is doing, whether he is half asleep or in the middle of a game, if I tell him, Ojas lets change dress, he jumps up immediately and rushes to his cupboard to look for the best possible combination of jeans and shirt. Not only does he select for himself but also for Tejas.
Even if he needs to change for the night, he approaches the task with great enthusiasm- getting a coordinated set for Tejas also.
Moreover, Ojas loves jeans on anybody. Everytime the husband wears a jeans, Ojas will ask- Dadda, where did you buy this?
So here I present, my fashionista pair, Tejas who often keeps his goggles perched on his head like he has seen Mamma do, and Ojas in his pair of jeans.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
We first had a round of talent show- Salad making contest for ladies. Since veggies are so priceless in the current scheme of things, we made the men make veggie jewelry. This entry was from the husband and his partner.
The kids conducted a quiz for us on the lines of Are you smarter than a fifth grader. Believe me, some of us turned out be smarter, but some of us were quite dumb!
We also gave puzzles for the teams - showed them the finished work and dismantled and made them complete the puzzle again. I had to stop Ojas from helping out the uncles & aunties in sorting out his puzzles. He even commented- why are you doing wrong!The pot breaking scene- Of course with adults screaming out wrong instructions & kids screaming out correct instructions, this guy was no where near the pot and aiming wildly at the car parked nearbyBrick walking- the partner places the bricks for you to walk on...race to finish and back exchanging rolesOjas is negotiating for a bronze medal instead of gold since he had already got a gold & silver. Tejas is content with what he got, as long as he also gets to keep the cup that Mamma got for standing in one corner of the throwball court. (pssst see me in white & orange in the background, in keeping with the republic day dresscode.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
We get busy with the TV.
He slinks towards the kitchen, Paati asks him- what is it?
Ojas says- nothing, it is all over.
Ojas reaches the kitchen, deposits the mixture pack there and comes out.
It so happens that Ojas loves mixture.
Ah well, Karma comes to bite me in my ample bum- many a times I have eaten a fistful of haldiram's nimboo masala mixture away from the kids'line of vision, if I believe it is not the right time for them to eat mixture.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Pay attention to a bunch of kids playing in the room and you will hear snatches of conversation
Mother, I am hungry
Mother I am going to school
And more often than not, the one who is the Father, is not playing with the other kids inside the room- he is (tri)cycling outside the confines - like in the living room, or if the "house" is a secluded corner of the building complex then the father will be cycling in the open portion of the complex.
So they pick it up early in life that mothers feed when you are hungry and the father is always outside- in office or somewhere else but not with the kids or the mother!
Monday, January 24, 2011
We had dart board, making your partner wear the shirt and button up, making a queen's costume using newspapers, reverse walking, hopping race, skipping race, banana eating competition, making smaller words from a larger word.
We had badminton matches and throwball match and a cricket match for kids with certain adults playing in their kids' team and generally bossing over any kid who clapped/ cheered unecessarily- so as if on cue, we ladies would start clapping and cheering like rowdies!
So in general all was fun and we have creative games coming up for the 26th also- this time for adults.
Saturday, January 22, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
The story progresses in the format of a narration by the snake to Janamejaya and each chapter begins with a dialogue addressed to him that represents the essence of the chapter.
Each chapter carries footnotes about alternate and regional versions and interpretations of the episodes which makes it even more interesting.
Extremely lucid style of writing.
The book is a keeper. I find it to be one of the best and complete narrations of Mahabharat that I have read so far.
pic courtsey- http://devdutt.com/the-snake-sacrifice/
Thursday, January 20, 2011
Now suppose there is some internal competition within your building. With the possibility of getting prizes. Would you do it yourself and submit it on behalf of the child or would you let the child do it with or without your guidance?
Well, I pose these questions because we are in the process of organizing events within our building. We have told kids to come up with stories & logo designs for putting up on the medals that we plan to give away as gifts. Now one kid made a submission and I casually asked - did you do it? And he honestly answered - my mother did it because I have exams and because it is meant for age group above 6.
At that moment I had 2 choices- to keep the paper quietly and not consider it as an entry thereby not making any enemies or returning it to him asking him to re submit.
I was tempted to take the easy way out- keeping the paper with me so as to avoid conflict but my heart said - no that would mean sending out the wrong message to the kid. So bravely I told him- this is easily the best of the lot since your mother has done it. But then you are supposed to do it so could you please make something yourself, may be take your mom's help and then resubmit?
Simple, but it took me a lot of effort to do it as diplomatically as possible. I resited the urge to call his mother and explain my point of view. May be it means I will have one less person in the building who will look kindly upon me. But then I am glad I did what was proper.
Seriously I wonder whom exactly are they fooling? Themselves, their kids or us- the rest of the people or the organisers or the judges?
What I feel is that this is the best way to give a free hand to the kids. Guide them if you please but let them do it by themselves. The objective should not be winning but participating and giving their best.
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
This time I had used my sure sort stragety- Ramban- err, Ram's arrow- telling the kids Dadda is taking them to the zoo- so obviously they wouldn't rest for the entire long weekend until we actually took them to the zoo.
We reached the zoo at around 3-ish and thankfully there was a good cloud cover- so atleast for an hour we had a cool-ish walk. There were buggies that could be taken and they stop at strategic locations and then honk like hell to call you back, but then they are for the faint hearted who cannot do a 2 hour plus walk. I admit I was feeling a bit faint towards the end and and went on asking the kids if they were also tired. However, my little darlings braved on and had they said yes they are tired, I wouldn't have been of any help either.
We also did not do the lion safari as it is not really sure that you may spot a lion in the wild.
So the first stop was at the duck pond.- My family and other animals below... And then the langur monkeys and a huge chimpanzee who refused to come within camera range
Saturday, January 15, 2011
Tejas- Mamma, what is 0 + 0
Ojas- Mamma, who is a painter
Mamma- who paints the house
Ojas- So is Dadda a painter?
Mamma- Ah, well, whoever paints a house and gets money for it is a painter
Mamma- now tell me who is an architect
Tejas- who builds house
Mamma- no he designs a house
Tejas/ Ojas together- no, that is interior designer
Mamma- Why didn't you eat the boiled egg
O/T- because that has a baby chicken inside
Mamma- No, boiled eggs do not have chicken inside. Only raw eggs....(then saw the raw egg in the fridge so added)- only raw egges that are not kept in fridge have chicken inside
Ojas- yes, only eggs that are in the nest have baby chicken inside...
simple isn't it?
why didn't I think of putting it that way
Friday, January 14, 2011
So I would just tell him, ok, take the newspaper.
Not really taking him seriously.
And since the school sends sms for everything that they are needed to bring to school, I would just take it as a whim of his.
2 days ago, as I dropped the kids at the class, the teacher asked him, where is your newspaper cutting. And said, you never bring it.
And then the bulb glowed for me. I did not know where to put my head.
I told the teacher, my mistake, he would tell but I did not know it was a specific piece of news to be brought every day.
Quickly I went to the car and brought the section which had something on benefits of groundnuts and cleaning of the beach and gave it to her. She promised to send one for Ojas to his class.
If only I had paid more attention to it, I would have loved to do it all this while with the kids.
Anyway never too late.
I also think it is a wonderful idea because it gives the kids a wider perspective than what is being taught in curriculum.
And they like it when their piece of news is put up on the notice board.
I like the enthusiasm of the teachers. I only wish I had been told earlier
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
And my take-
1. Super kids are not kids who score A across or can do everything, every activity. Super kids to me are good human beings first. They first need to learn stuff like sharing, empathy, caring, feeling for others, understand emotions- whether happiness or sadness or anger. My proud moments are those little moments when one kid of mine brings a set of night clothes for his brother or puts his brother's shoes back into the rack, or stop my hand when I try to dress a wound because according to him I might hurt his brother, or when they insist that they must share the lollylops with their friends. Yes, these are my proudest moments as a parent, because some where I know their heart is in the right place if they are able to do that.
2. Superkids do not just do academics. They also play. They also listen to music, learn music, watch TV, dance, or chat or just do nothing. I believe that for an all round development, kids must be exposed to different types of activities. Otherwise they will never discover what they may be good at. Ojas dribbles the football like a pro. At one point we were desperate that he doesn't coordinate well. The music teacher almost gave up on Tejas but today Tejas has been asked to sing a few lines in the assembly. I don't care what he does there- but atleast the teacher found him good enough to sing in front of the school.
What I like about their school is that they insist everyone participates. Perhaps I did not have a good face, or maybe I was too tall, or fat or didn't have a loud enough voice... whatever maybe the reason, I was not part most stage functions in school. I am glad my kids do not face that problem. Next year the kids take up theatre & dance as co curricular activities. And I am excited about it because theatre or dance is such a great medium of expression, it enhances your comfort with your own body. To me it is not just about academics- it is more than that.
3. Moms of superkids feel proud about their kids' achievements but they do not believe it is a matter of life or death if they do not come first in a race or such things and they never ever base a promise of reward on that. Parents of superkids also feel proud of any other kids' achievement infact.
To me it is more important that a child is sportive and accepts the fact that others may be as good or better than him in some aspect. I will never tell my kid that you are the best. I always say that I am happy you have done well. Once when a child was going on and on about how he is the smartest in his class because he got so many stars, I had to cut him off saying that so did others. Everybody gets stars. The fact was that his mom made him believe that he is the smartest and others are not. Which in my opinion is wrong. Because then, these kids cannot take failure.
4. Parents of superkids do not compare- You first compare among your children, then with classmates, then neighbour's children in other schools....and so on- it is endless. To me what matters is that as an individual is the child meeting all milestones. I face a problem at home. Both my kids achieve their milestones at different phases. It is natural and unavoidable that I go on high alert and start comparing even though I make a conscious effort to not do it.
But it also helps in a way that I know where to put my efforts because I do not want them to miss a chance of enjoying a pursuit because they are ready to give up at this stage. Ojas hated reading. He would falter at even the simplest words whereas Tejas just amassed words into his vocab. I pushed Ojas relentlessly and today he is hungering after books. My main concern was, I did not want him to miss the joys of reading, which was the reason I pushed- I used techniques, I used word spotting games, I used kindersite stories to make it fun. Basically, I followed his style of approach towards learning.
5. Superkids do not always score 100% in school - my husband did not, and neither did he get recruited in campus- he is a CEO today.
6. Superkids are not bookish- superkids apply. Superkids do and learn, not mug up and learn. Superkids imagine.
7. And discipline- superkids are disciplined, not regimental. As a parent, I do not encourage missing school. Because my focus is on building a lifeskill of self discipline. Today you miss school, tomorrow you go lax in college because of your "chalt hai" attitude and later on you miss deadlines in office, and do not take your responsibilities seriously.
8. In Life, it is not enough that you are a gold medallist and all that. What is the life skill that you have imbibed at the end of the day? Who cares about a degree that is locked up in your drawer. What do people perceive you as?
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Monday, January 10, 2011
Both of them helped me with shelling peas this weekend.
Ojas insisted he do the entire thing on his own- said to Tejas- tell Dadda, I don't need your help. You go. I will do it fully.
Thursday, January 06, 2011
Wednesday, January 05, 2011
Mamma- Ok, then shall I put vomit on you (and other unmentionables)
Ojas- kyon, tumko accha things pataa nahin hai?(why don't you know how to do good things?)
Mamma - What is the meaning of treasure
Tejas- anything that is found and should be kept at home