It's the Little Things that Matter

So what are the little things I have gained in 2009?
"This is an all about me post ....just saying..."
1. I have gained control over my senses- finally
exercised iron shakti control over my feelings & chucked out almost new size medium kurtas (customised hand embroidery by a fashion technology Graduate mind it!). That's is not all- did this chucking out 2 times this year
threw away toys that fell over my head when I opened the loft- if it falls over- it does not fit - so it cannot be stowed
2. To my utmost delight- I have gained a fan
none other than my aunt who reads my blog and spreads the word around! I am chuffed
3. I have gained a brother in law!
though very little time was spent together- blink and you miss it sort- but yes, we need to get together as a family atleast once a year!
4. I have gained my old network
Now I can count my blessings by the number of "likes" and comments I get on the crap I post on FB also
5. I have gained a lot of family time
by bunking office err taking my official quota of leave quite a few times!
6. I have gained... err created space
Didn't I say it already? I have thrown out so many things that I wonder why do I ever keep them in the first place
7. I have gained the knowledge that sometimes I can let go and it does not hurt so much
I missed the kids' sports day...bawwwwwwwwl. But the hurt did lessen with time
8. I have gained a place that is not among the donkeys- Gadha Janam choot gaya
attended a proper (non college) fashion show ... Thanks to AD... excuse me while I jump up and down like a villager...
9. Yet again Gadha Janam chootaa..
I have finally visited places out of India that are not called Singapore....even though it was via Singapore airport!
10. I have gained a bone that is not called lazy-bones
This year have tried lot of new recipes... those which are a little more elaborate than 3 steps- cutting, washing and putting in the cooker.
11. I have gained a little more confidence in my driving skills
Probably now I will not hesitate to drive cars that are not otherwise called Swift.
12. I have gained and prolly even lost self control
Managed to push off 3 kgs by diet control and a little walk when you talk. I think this is one battle that I need to win..
13. I have gained more party time this year
with friends, Chennai-men, & Country-men.... figuratively speaking offcourse..women also or mainly included rather... parties with neighbours, blog friends, relatives... life is good!
14. I have gained access to more books this year
Library, friends, and own collection and a variety which is more varied than what I have been reading all this while. Included authors and genres that I have never read before!
15. I have regained my punctuality
Aided by the fact that I have to drop kids to school everyday and leave to office thereafter
16. And I have gained a new wardrobe for 2010 before the new year begins even
Thanks to very well thought out, organised, planned and controlled shopping from Diwali onwards!
Happy 2010 Friends!!

Mandatory New Year Resolutions

This new year, I am going to go back to doing things I love the most...
1. So worldspace will wind up, I cannot switch on the TV to a music channel as cartoon requests are always on at home and the music system needs repair. Yet, I am going to listen to music everyday - come what may-on my laptop if needed- since music forcefully makes me calmer and puts me in a good mood... so much so that I forgot I was angry with a particular supplier and welcomed him with a huge smile!
2. Books give me a sense of purpose, take me to a different world and gives me insights.... I have been reading lots and I am going to continue to do so. and I am going to start reading myself to sleep again perhaps!
3. Discover new recipes and perfect them- It's not worth drooling at a single piece of delicacy and counting days until I can next eat them. This year was the mastery of the brownie. Next year will be a few more. Currently I am on a mutton chukka trip!
4. While on the topic of food- no more being penny wise & pound foolish! Indulge and don't sweat the small sweat- so a pack of Al Kabeer mutton seekh kabab is way cheaper than eating in the restaurant and a pack of frozen chicken samosa costs the same as a normal samosa in a restaurant and even the costliest of tomato is way cheaper than the chicken!!! I don't know what mentality of mine allows me to spend huge amounts in buffets but I start counting cash everytime I want to make the above purchases!!
5. Watch all the movies that I missed this year
6. Socialise more- did quite a few parties at home and even managed a potluck last week- this year probably a group picnic ....saves us from looking at each other's faces and getting into a fight!!
7. Atleast 1 travel other than the mandatory home town visit!
8. Chill chill chill - I am going to be a better and less impulsive woman this year
9. More flowers, less foliage for the garden- which means extensive reseasch on what flower will flourish in my sun starved garden- already started on this quest- Have planted some flowering plants and waiting with bated breath for them to flower and I am holding my heart in my hands and removing lovingly planted foliages in triplicate!!
10. Declutter and not let litter accumulate. Plastic bags, broken toys, sheets of coloring, kids clothes that have become ratty, clothes that I have not used since last 1 year in hopes of getting slimmer
11 And one last stretch goal - find a way to get slimmer!! the health check up have found nothing wrong on which I can pin the blame of my weight gain!

I am in a Corporate-ish Mood today

So here is a post relevant to the mood.
A part of my job involves making presentations. Converting boring data or info or straightforward concepts into a format that becomes interesting and more important helps the audience remember atleast something of the crap you spoke.

So the rule of thumb for me when I make a ppt.....
0. Point zero is that content is king. Cannot deny that fact but the important thing is what can you do beyond the content to make people listen to you as you speak
1. What's your story? Can you fit it in a model? Think of some gimmicky models like Johari window, 6 thinking hats, Need hierarchy. Can you fit your data into that story?
2. Pictures do speak louder than words. Think back to the ppts that you have sat through. You will find that you remember the ones that had interesting pictorial depiction. You may not even remember the content (and the secret is nobody ever remembers the content) but you will remember the pictorial depictions.
3. Less is More- use simple, single sentences or text boxes to make your point - don't write the entire story in a single slide.
4. Graphs... nice way to depict data. But data is just that- data. It is nicer if you can put a 2 line summary of what you derived from the data instead of leaving it to the attendees.
5. The format- make a story, present it in verse, sing it, videos... think in the dimension of the 5 senses.
6. When you start- start with a bang. In a workshop I once burst a balloon and threw a ball at someone while making a point. What point even I do not remember but I just remember the action which woke everyone up from their afternoon siesta.
7. Modulate your voice as you move from slide to slide. Add your personal touch...be expressive.
8. Use props- posters, visuals, use the entire room, not just the computer and the screen
9. Involve people- ask questions, get them to role play. In the beginning of a presentation, I once asked the entire audience to start with a big kiss- asked them to mouth loud kisses as I was going to Keep It Simple & Stupid (K.I.S.S)
10. Sometimes I like to not tell all-leave deliberate gaps to incite the audience to question and get involved
11. Rehearse - rehearse your tone, the stories you will break into and at what point.

Moochhon waala and Ghunghat waali Rajasthani

So here are the (much awaited?) photos finally of the (much talked about?) Jodhpur trip.

View of fort Khimsar and the kingdomThe King's Living Quarters
And one of his chariotsThe Suit of Armor The Sheesh MahalDurbar ka BarThe blood curdling Sati Pol at the fort entrance (notice the size of the hand)
Rajsiya entertainment?

Puppet Show

Gaana Bajana
The Picnic in the Dunes

ANIMAL PLANET

The camel who F @ rted
Black Buck & Chinkara NeelgaiBirds of a featherUmmed Bhawan- The residence of the King of JodhpurMehrangadh Fort built by several generations in phasesThe Holi playing compoundThe Conference room- notice the jharokhas on the side- 5 nos for his 5 queens esp needed when the king sought the nod" of his ranisThe King's bedroom- the bed is single and low so that if the "dushman" tie the king to his bed, he can lift it up and stand! so they say!Palanquin of the King
The ceremonial swords not used for war- yeh khoon se range hue nahin hai

Gulaab lake in the Blue City Jodhur- Legend has it that the concubine wanted something built in her name and the king got a lake built for the ever water starved jodhpur. The concubine wanted something for the son also- the King's assistance divided the lake- a quarter of the lake represents the son

And the Spoils of the War,

The Rajasthani Bundi and the leather animals

Spot the Differences

The PTA meeting this morning reveals that while Ojas refuses to write, Tejas refuses to speak.
Ojas answers in group but Tejas needs to be specifically invited to speak. Similarly, Tejas finishes up the written work but Ojas needs a nudge and a push to write. Shamelessly sits without writing!
Why am I not surprised? We had our own share of those who would start sharpening pencil the moment they were asked to write and their own mamma too lazy to sing the prayer songs aloud in school- always lip synched!! The logic being why waste energy.

I was worried whether their speech is clear. The teachers assured no cause of worry. They have described in detail their birthday dress and the cars they got as gift (so that's what ultimately mattered?)
And the sad part is they are deeply focussed like their Dad and when engrossed in one thing do not bother about the world around- unlike their mamma who has eyes and ears roaming all over the place while she is eating, watching TV and reading and also disciplining the kids and maybe talking on the phone.
They sit separately in class but keep in touch from across the class with each other throughout, shouting across.
And when asked they insist that Ojas is Tejas' friend and Tejas is Ojas' friend
And brownie points to the Mamma for being the only Mamma whose snacks are varied and healthy not junk.
What am I glad about? Unlike the last PTA the teacher shows equal hope towards Tejas as well as Ojas. Last time I felt she was biased towards Ojas because Tejas is the silent. But she says she always does a check whether he is answering concepts

Caramel Pudding

Not a very favourite dessert of mine but the kids and Hubby love it.

Here's how I make it
The recipe is largely borrowed from Sanjeev Kapoor but I keep modifying as I go

Pudding
Eggs- 4 large
Milk- 2.5 cups (500ml roughly)
Sugar - 100 g (1/2 a cup)
few drops vanilla essence

Caramel
1/4th cup sugar and 1 tsp water

step1- making the milk ready as recommended by Sanjeev Kapoor
pour milk in a microwave bowl. MW high for 5 minutes. Set aside to come to normal temperature. I normally set aside boiled milk and let it cool (else the egg will coagulate)- I do not microwave it as suggested.

Step 2- making the caramel
Mix 1/4 cup sugar and 1 table spoon water in a glass bowl and Microwave high for 2 minutes or until the sugar bubbles, and caramlises
Pour in the pudding mould (dish) and set aside.

Step 3 - In a separate bowl mix eggs, vanilla essense and whisk.
Add sugar and whisk again.
Add the milk that has come to normal temperature and mix well.
Pour into the caramel mould and microwave high for 7-8 minutes. dip a skewer and check whether it comes out clean
Place a plate to cover the dish and upturn the pudding onto the plate.

Cool and refrigerate before serving

Some of my recent smart comebacks

Creep- that dress was not at all looking nice on you
Me- ahem- you are talking about my most favourite dress

Creep who comes to work half an hour after me- if you come after 9 am they will mark half day for you
Me- that was because somedays when I come in the office will be so empty and all the lights switched off in the rooms that I go back thinking it is a holiday. The Security has to call me back to work

Creep who tells us that the company will fall down if you are absent takes leave
Me- Where were you yesterday, the company has started falling, ladies toilet has already fallen (was destroyed for renovation)

Eunuch Park

This is one book that I cannot figure out. I read each story eagerly hoping that this one would be the perfect one in all respects and it would end abruptly in a disappointment.
The stories progressed well, in terms of keeping the interest alive, (at times hilarious) detailing, and makes you grin at the realistic portrayal. One can clearly see that the author is talking from experience.
But most of the stories would end suddenly as if the author has run out of time and steam and needs to finish up the story in the next 1 minute. Left me thirsting for more.
Not a book I would recommend to people or re read.

And yes, the book seller said- I don't have eunuch park but enuchh (ch pronounced as in chair) park. So be it!

Star Rating

So we started the star rating chart with great enthusiasm. We made large individual charts and wrote down the criteria for which they would get stars. Since this is such a big hit with teh kids in school, why should it not work at home?
The charts were duly pasted on the cupboard doors and various sizes, colours and designs of stars and other stickers were bought and kept in a safe place.
The first couple of days we gave stars with great aplomb and restriction. We were very strict on whether they merit the star or not.
Then, one day, fed up of this rationing, while everyone was fast asleep, the kids procured the star sheets for themselves and solved the problem in one go, even accounting for beyond category stars.
Take a look...

OJAS

TEJAS

obviously going by the density of stars in the respective charts you will know whose idea it was in the first place!

Fruit Salad with Icecream

A very easy to assemble dessert idea which is a combo of recipes used by my Mom, and Aunt & Art .

take a transparent Glass dish

The first layer is plain/ chocolate cake (I used brownies here).

Pour Honey over the cake

Add a layer of vanilla icecream

Add a layer of cut fruits like apple, banana, mango

Add a layer of icecream

Add a layer of honey, fruit marmalade, dry fruits, bits of chocolate cream biscuits

Add a layer of Icecream and whipped fresh cream

Garnish with grapes, pomegranate, peeled and de seeded orange bits, grated chocolate

Squeeze an orange over it - the citrus brings out the taste much better

Decorate with crisscross pattern of honey and chocolate sauce

Allow the icecream to melt and soak the cake/ biscuits

Refrigerate but do not Freeze

You can add as many layers you want!