tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post7137245575753426286..comments2023-10-31T18:31:57.634+05:30Comments on Mamma of Twins: The Home is Here and So Also the HeartItchingtowritehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00763940951418027045noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-39672210371449559152008-11-20T08:56:00.000+05:302008-11-20T08:56:00.000+05:30omigawd! You are a woman after my own heart and th...omigawd! You are a woman after my own heart and thank god you wrote this post. I was going nuts wondeing if I was the only one who behaved and felt this way. Is life in India really getting to be this way? Sob! Because in the U.S. here I sorta take it for granted that people like living in semi-isolation but I'm like a flower( that stretches it a bit but you know....:-)) wilting if I'm unable to surround myself with loving, lovable, racuous, warm people and it's been so damn hard here to expect that easy socialising I was so used to as a pre-married gal in India and growing up in my open-to-all homein Goa. <BR/><BR/>I remember just weeks into my new marriage when a close pal had to come on a long term assignment to the U.S. I insisted she stay with me despite her co. acco. and welcomed her to stay for 3 whole months before her hubby could join her. Neither my husband nor I found it in any way inconvenient nor odd although many others did. You are the last of its kind Itchy, a breed apart and no matter how much your heart hardens pls. stay that way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-84633223922224088792008-11-19T21:15:00.000+05:302008-11-19T21:15:00.000+05:30Itchy, you are just wonderful!We have a plaque on ...Itchy, you are just wonderful!<BR/>We have a plaque on our front door in Kochi- 'Our House is Open to God, Friends, Guests and Sunshine'.<BR/>You live up to it totally. It's a joy to know that there are people like you around:)dipalihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01070862196307376073noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-53874468646271332072008-11-18T13:08:00.000+05:302008-11-18T13:08:00.000+05:30Since I have been graciously hosted all over the w...Since I have been graciously hosted all over the world by sometimes complete strangers, in return I will host anyone who comes my direction. Yes, in America where there is generally a "no guest" policy in most households. Sometimes it's for a day, a week, weekends, a month even and I do not care one bit. This place stinks without knowing where anything is, or how things have to be done procedurally, and god help you if you don't have a car. I think of all the times people have helped me and I consider that I am paying the kindness forward. Life is richer for it.Kimberly El-Sadekhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15881409822821935589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-65621121119323848282008-11-18T12:32:00.000+05:302008-11-18T12:32:00.000+05:30so true ITW.we lived in a one room kitchen. NOT iB...so true ITW.<BR/><BR/>we lived in a one room kitchen. NOT iBHK. and still there were always friends and fanily dropping in at my parents! <BR/><BR/>and all of them went back saying somehow your home gives out such positive vibes!<BR/><BR/>today, we love having people over! and yes, it isnt always eciprocated. or people are so fake that you dont wanna bother anyway.<BR/><BR/>some relatives are old and cant climb stairs to our place in blr. to make up fpor the fcat we visit often, we make food and acrry so as to not burden them everytime.<BR/><BR/>and then there are people for howm its too much effort to even order food! its so mad!<BR/><BR/>coming into a northie family with concerns like seperate beds and bathroom for guests was a culture shock for me. coming from a tiny house when my mils would whine about having no space in her 3bhk house, i didnt whether to laugh or cry!<BR/><BR/>but then those are cultural differences hard to let go, i guess. but if i have to offer perfect hospitality their way, it makes me nervous!<BR/><BR/>but then i remember my parents home and how informal things were and yet nobody went home unhappy, i relax and do things my way!<BR/><BR/>if others dont appreciate it! too bad! :D<BR/><BR/>loved the post!<BR/><BR/>cheers!<BR/><BR/>abhaMama - Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06330103540647472728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-10649393815891190232008-11-18T12:08:00.000+05:302008-11-18T12:08:00.000+05:30This is one very big reason I want to move into a ...This is one very big reason I want to move into a remote area far away in the hills when I retire. People dont have time for other people in the cities, and their hearts are closed. Old world generosity and hospitality is dead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-36869710653617342992008-11-18T11:33:00.000+05:302008-11-18T11:33:00.000+05:30I agree with every single point you've made. I hav...I agree with every single point you've made. I have lived your sentiments and emotions too, so I know how your heart feels...mine continues to feel the same.<BR/><BR/>This is an open invitation for you and your family if you are ever in Calcutta...our doors are always open!Mamma mia! Me a mamma?https://www.blogger.com/profile/04136269509737254271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-41877677568523796952008-11-18T10:42:00.000+05:302008-11-18T10:42:00.000+05:30i soo agree!! When i was a child, the house was al...i soo agree!! When i was a child, the house was always open to visitors. I thought thats the way it is in all houses. We do what we can, and the house is yours to use as you please. No fancy formality, no nothing. But later realised all houses are not like that. Everyone doesn't think "Of course you will stay with us if you are in town for just 2 days.".. that culture is gone, methinks. My current family even discourages visitors for meals! I just don't get it!How do we knowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01763488475931737293noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-51351698079903280902008-11-18T10:03:00.000+05:302008-11-18T10:03:00.000+05:30What a wonderful woman you are.I love your idea of...What a wonderful woman you are.<BR/>I love your idea of hosting at least one party per month. :)Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145728591714940261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32496989.post-20542384032951557322008-11-18T10:01:00.000+05:302008-11-18T10:01:00.000+05:30I so agree with you. When I was in Pune, we hosted...I so agree with you. When I was in Pune, we hosted many dinner parties. In hope that we'll get to know each other and would in general, have a social life. Well! we never got an invitation. <BR/>Have learnt our lessons. Here, we have started with inviting for Tea/snacks and then will see the responses :)<BR/>The acco problem: very true, since we have faced the issue, we understand how it is to hear an invitation for stay :)beaches-and-hillshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15019975428154960756noreply@blogger.com